Well, some people would like to claim that it does – Facebook in particular. We’ve all seen the memes with the list of relationship killers. Somehow Facebook always seems to land on them right between lying and lack of communication. The truth is, that a social media platform cannot take the blame for the poor choices that people make in relationships. Generally when I see these ridiculous memes floating around the internet, they also speak to trust, jealousy and assumptions.

While those are all necessary pieces in a long term and stable relationship, so is basic human goodness. An asshole or a cheater is still the same person with or without the added benefit of social media. They have a choice to lie and cheat over being faithful and trustworthy. Freewill makes someone seek out a side piece of ass on Facebook or anywhere else. End of story. We are gluttons for gossip, instant news and what the hot girl we crushed on in high school ate for breakfast.

You are the one who eats it up and checks the notifications every five minutes. You are the one who makes assumptions based off of a single photo or status update. You are the one who uses social media to stalk a crush or an ex. So knock the blame game off already and take responsibility for your actions. It used to be that there were two sides to every story. His and hers, as it were, with the actual truth somewhere in between. Now we have “versions”. End of story.

A better question is who cares? If you determine any worth that you may possess by associating it to followers, likes or favorites -you’re insecure. Open up your Facebook right now and scroll through your “friends”. Think about the value of each of them. Does what they do or say have any real impact on your life? Do you really need to see the hot girl’s breakfast or hear about the player’s latest conquest? For every “no” you come across, un-friend them – simple as that.